Kids cry - as they always do! Even if nothing bad happens, kids may suddenly burst into tears, let alone when she gets in trouble! However, it is really not a good habit to cry for every little thing! Childhood is a critical period for personality formation. The development of children's resistance to frustration is an indispensable part of forming a sound personality, and frustration education is a way to help children resist frustration.
Then, how to help your child to be a strong person? What kind of education or help should you give to your child? Check out the WHYs, Whats and Hows in this guide!
Why Does Your Child Cry About Everything?
Although sometimes children cry for no reason, most of the time, there is a hidden reason and a trail to follow. Our work is to help our helpless child find the reason and encourage her to face and conquer it. Common reasons for a child to cry include but not limited to the followings.
She is Too Weak to Withstand Setbacks
She is a kid! No matter how old the child is, she is still just a child! She is too weak to withstand setbacks. Many items and things in the world are strange and frightening to him, especially those that may hurt she! We must agree on this rather than hold her to the standards we recognize.
She Doesn’t Know How to Control Her Emotions
The vast majority of children are unable to manage their emotions well and control their temper. Children are still in the process of growing and maturing, both in terms of physical growth and mental growth. They still lack the basic ability to judge many things and have not yet acquired sufficient skills. Fundamentally, a child is still a little person who thinks mainly emotionally. They do not think too much about the impact of their behavior on others or the environment, and as long as they feel the need to vent their emotions, they will reveal them without concealment.
Compared to their rational thinking, emotional thinking always prevails. The crying is the natural flow of the child's nature.
She Can’t Express Herself Well
She is not that good at language expression, and she is not yet able to use appropriate language to express her demands for what she wants in their hearts, especially for some relatively complex needs. A lack of vocabulary makes it easy for words to be misunderstood by others. Or obvious errors in grammar can cause confusion to others. This is the main conflict that she may have in the communication process.
What Does It Mean When A Child Cries Easily?
Crying is a sign that your child is looking for something, maybe your notice or your help. We need to finger out the reasons!
She May Have Felt Neglected
Crying may be not a sign of cowardice and timidity. Sometimes this may because your child has felt neglected. When she tends to feel insecure or be ignored, she easily fails to close the emotional floodgates and let the tears spill out.
She Needs Your Help
Child cries when she needs the help of parents. For example, when she feels hungry or thirsty, or when the child goes to an unfamiliar environment, she may cry. Children may also cry frequently when they are not feeling well. In addition to this, she may cry probably due to vitamin D deficiency or calcium deficiency, resulting in increased nerve and muscle excitability. This condition may also accompany by restless sleep and excessive sweating at night.
She May Do Something Wrong
When a child does something wrong or gets into trouble, she is usually afraid of criticism from teachers and scolding from mom and dad.
How Do I Stop Your Child from Crying Over Everything?
The child cry for a long time can appear dizziness and headaches. In order to prevent these risks, we should stop our child from crying for a long period of time. How to stop your child from crying over everything?
Accept It, and Then You Can Go Longer
There must be a reason for a child to cry. Being a child, her language skills, self-control ability and thinking ability are all not that excellent as our adults. As parents, we should understand and accept her emotions first, and then we need to find solutions with appropriate methods to calm her down and stop her crying. When she expresses needs and emotions inappropriately, you are suggested to firstly accept the child's negative expressions of emotion and never reprimand or blame them harshly. Never add fuel to the fire and make the child's emotions even worse.
Sometimes Ignore It, and She May Stop
What may seem like a trivial thing to us may seem very important to our children. When your child cries, don't immediately yell and scream, holding back tears and pretending to be strong is a little too much to ask of your child. Crying is also a way to calm down, give her a little time and space to ease up and finish talking. She may stop herself when her emotions have been vented!
Introduce Some Interesting Sports to Her
Games and toys are always the magic cures of stopping a child from crying. When you want to stop your child from crying, make her moving and jumping! When she is free from the frozen standing mode, she may immediately forget why she just cried. Trampoline jumping games may be good choices. Both outdoor trampolines and indoor trampolines are all good, while outdoor trampolines may be better choices, because they offer wider spaces for your child to have fun. An open environment is more friendly to her in the crying case, or your plan may be failed!
How Do You Toughen Up Your Emotional Child?
Children themselves are not strong enough, afraid of strangers and things, can not do things independently. So what do parents do to make their children strong?
Training She to Manage Herself
Emotion management, is only one part of the self-management that children do, and the acquisition of these skills is not singular, but closely related to other self-management. Therefore, parents should consider their children's emotion management within the larger context of self-management. When it's time for your child to eat on her own, let her try the eating alone. Then it's time to gradually arrange for the child to acquire some necessary life skills, such as dressing himself or herself, going to the bathroom, etc.
With the Help of Picture Books
Picture books make the problems encountered in children’s life shown in the book with vivid scenarios. Reading picture books allows children to relate the stories in picture books to what has happened in their lives, so that they can be inspired and learn to face issues. The best picture books include Today I Feel Silly: And Other Moods That Make My Day, When I Feel Scared, Happy to Be Me, Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon, etc.